Here Comes The Bride . . . Oh No She Didn't

While I was out of commission for a week now (hey, life happens and being sick is no fun), I watched a tv episode about wedding dresses and a bride looking for her perfect wedding gown. I started reminiscing about our wedding day. Our wedding day was beautiful and perfect for us! Consider it a compliment when guests remember the way you looked on your wedding day or how much fun they had or how great the food was over a year later.  Consider yourself a successful wedding planner when more than your mom, sister and yourself and maybe your best friend remembers the details of your wedding. 

As I was watching this episode, I was frankly appalled at the behavior of the bride.  I found the bride repeating choice words as she talked about "This is what I want" . . . "This is my day" . . . "This day is all about me".  Excuse me, notice a theme here?  Isn't a wedding day as much about the groom as the bride?  Would the bride even be having her day if it wasn't for the groom proposing?  Aren't weddings about two people joining their lives to become one?

I agree that men do not get involved or even care about the details of the wedding day like you brides-to-be.  In general, men are patiently awaiting the day to come and couldn't care less about the nitty gritty details, except for the Bachelor Party.  Men will organize and plan ahead for that epic night!  However, pay attention to what is important to the groom.  For example, it was very important for my husband to get married in a Catholic church.  And it was very important to him we make the ceremony about us.  So we did and personalized it with unique details that reflected 'us' as a couple.  We wanted our families involved because our special day was also our parent's special day. 

The point is that weddings, in general, have gotten out of hand.  We are taking what should be a very special, intimate day and turning it into a huge extravaganza more about the drinks and after-party.  Some weddings are bigger than New Year's Eve parties!!  Hey, if you have that kind of money . . more power to you!  But I think it is kind of selfish to be so demanding about your wants for your wedding day, especially if you are not the one paying for it.  It is easy to get lost in the hype of the day and forget about the meaning behind it.

So this one's for the men!  Considering your man's viewpoint for your wedding day is not only fabulous, but more meaningful.  Your wedding day is equally important to your partner as it is to you . . . just in different ways.